Coffee and Transgender people

One of the more hot topics recently involves the question of whether transgender men and women should be allowed to participate in events specific to a certain gender. The question was sparked more recently by Ms. Spain of the Ms. Universe pageant, who was born male and now identifies as a woman (transgendered women). It was then fueled by posts of transgendered women who compete in women's sporting events and completely dominate in their sport, with one report of a female MMA fighter who suffered a broken skull from a transgendered female MMA fighter.

The recurring theme of these posts is, "Where do we draw the line?" I get the point made by some of my friends when they say that in the Ms. Universe pageant, being biologically female isn't as important as what is important for a pageant winner is her voice in representing certain humanitarian causes. However, the line still needs to be drawn somewhere. There have already been athletes, born male, but compete in women's sports and dominate. There's also been in the UK, a man who was convicted of rape but since he identifies as a woman, was placed in a women's facility where to absolutely no one's surprise, this person raped a bunch of the inmates.

This story is truly disgusting:

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2018/10/11/transgender-prisoner-born-male-sexually-assaulted-female-inmates/

Now, I'm not saying that all transgendered men and women are like this. They are NOT. Many, I believe, are good people with good hearts. But it's practically unchallenged that a line must be drawn somewhere. Some draw the line at sports and crime sentencing, which I find very arbitrary. It's not based on anything really except feelings, which are arbitrary. I understand that the goal of inclusion and acceptance is a noble one - no doubt about that. But we must remember why is it that we think it's a good thing to include and accept these people as their chosen gender?

At the very bottom of the issue is one I think everyone agrees on. We care for the well being of these people and want the best for them. If they truly believe that they are the gender they say they are, wouldn't the most loving option for anyone be acceptance and acknowledgement? Some people would answer in the affirmative. I say "No."

In no other case of where a person believes something false about their body is the treatment to reinforce and acknowledge the false belief. There are women who believe that they are too fat and so vomit out anything they eat or choose to not eat at all. In this case, we do not reinforce their false belief. There are people who truly believe they are disabled when nothing is wrong with them (BIID). In this case, we do not reinforce their false belief. In fact, in all these cases, the most loving action one could take to make these people realize that their false beliefs are in fact false. Why do we make an exemption for transgendered men and women? If you ask me, I would simply draw the line at biology.

Now, people who think my beliefs are false, gladly point out what they think my false beliefs are. In this case, I know I'm not perfect and I may indeed hold false beliefs. But let's not confuse this with hate. Think I'm wrong? Talk to me about it. Truth be told, I can't write down all my ideas so I'm looking forward to listening to someone. I'm all ears. If you disagree with me, let's have coffee.